When your face doesn’t fit.
Now before you start to think I’m getting down on myself, I’m not.
It’s come to my attention over the last few years for those of us who are below average looking or those who look different to the ideal have a harder time.
My face never fits. Wherever I go, I am always the odd one out, whether it’s because I’m overweight, the gay one or below average looking. I am not what society class as beautiful and I know that.
When I was a child I was always told that looks don’t matter, and it’s what is on the inside that counts. What a load of bullshit! I am one of those people who would go out of their way to help someone and people take advantage of that. I would give them my last pound.
So I thought to myself;
Why do we tell people this, that it is what’s on the inside that counts?
Is it so that those whose faces fit don’t feel bad about not hiring them? Or is it a cop-out?
Here is what has happened to me over the last few years.
People and genuinely surprised when I say that I am married, they are even more surprised when I say I have children.
I have had my gender used as an excuse to not hire me.
I’ve been followed around a shop on more than one occasion because I “look dodgy”.
I have had people ask me if I am male or female.
They are just a few examples, I could go on.
In my opinion, people who defy the norm are those who can change the world.
Those people need to be given a chance without a label. A chance to succeed without prejudice and bias.
How can you help?
Let’s make a start by not judging a book by its cover. Those people often suffer from low self-esteem and lack confidence; when you’ve been told so much you can’t do something you start to believe it. I’ve spoken about mental health before. Here and Here. If you are suffering please seek some help.